September 16, 2011

Hard

It doesn't matter if you're expecting the diagnosis.
It's still hard to hear.
The cancer is back.
It's aggressive and very serious;
It wasn't there two month ago.

My daddy is dying.

We're bring him home tomorrow with hospice.
We were given the option of doing chemo and/or radiation.
The three of us talked and decided that it wasn't worth it
for maybe having a few more months.
There is no cure
only a delaying the inevitable.

It was the hardest decision we've ever had to make.

There peace is in knowing that daddy believes.
Dad believes that Jesus died and rose again for his sins.
I believe he will be in heaven when he is no longer here
and that I'll see him again there.
Once he's there, there will be no more pain and his body will be whole again.

I'm staying in MA until the end.
I took care of him before when he was sick
and I'll do it again now.

It's a surreal feeling.
I haven't totally wrapped my head around the fact that he's dying.
I've cried a lot already;
I know more tears are coming.


33 comments:

  1. I am so very sorry. I will keep your family in my prayers as you go through this difficult time. You are an amazing woman and wonderful daughter.

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  2. I don't know what the right words are, I wish I did. I am sorry and will be praying for you. If you need someone to talk to, MeganWrites1 (on twitter & she has a blog if you don't know her) has been through something similar with her father. If nothing else, she may be able to understand what is happening. I'm here for you also. I wish I could be of more comfort but know that we're thinking of you.

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  3. I am so sorry, I have to say that I really think you are doing the right thing. I wish the doctors had been so upfront when my dad was diagnosed, he spent the last months of his life in treatment and we all know that is not a way to live.

    I hate that others have to go through this too, if you need anything from someone who has been there please let me know. Cancer sucks.

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  4. May the Lord bless you and keep you. May He wrap His ever loving arms around you and give you His peace.

    I will be praying for you and your dad. I am glad that you are able to be with him.

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  5. Just know that I am sending prayers your way.

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  6. Wow. Don't be afraid to cry. My prayers for you all continue

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  7. I am very sorry to hear this. I will be praying extra hard. Do not hesitate to ask if you need anything. I can even ask if mine and Joshs parents will look after the kids so I can come out to be with you. I will do my best to do anything you need.

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  8. I am terribly sorry, you and your family are in my thoughts!

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  9. So so sorry. Keeping you and your family in our prayers!

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  10. I'm so very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

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  11. Oh girly, what a horrible thing to hear. I'm so sorry your family got this kind of news. I'm sure he's so thankful to have you by his side, and although it will be hard, I know you'll look back on it with a little comfort knowing you were able to be there for him. I hope you and your mom have the best, sweetest time with him and I hope he stays as comfortable as possible. I'll be praying, both for him and for your family. Lots of hugs.

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  12. You are so strongly in my thoughts as you move forward in this hard, hard time in your life. You are so strong to be there with him and take care of him through all of this until the end. People say that babies pick their parents and I bet he is real glad you picked him to be your father right about now.
    lots of hugs and nothing but good thoughts for your family.

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  13. shanna, my heart breaks for you. i am so sorry you have to walk this path....but i am grateful to God that your dad has you and your mom to hold his hand as he walks through this valley. the love the 3 of you share will be life-giving to him until his last breath.

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  14. I am so sorry to hear this girl--it really is the shittest of all shitty decisions. I hope you guys are at peace with the decision you made because that is truly all that matters. You are all in my thoughts and prayers and please do not hesitate to let me know if you need anything at all.

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  15. I'm so very sorry. Many prayers for you and your family.

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  16. Oh lady... I'm terribly sorry to hear this. We've gone through three rounds of chemotherapy with my dad. I'm praying for peace of mind for you and your family, so happy to know your dad is saved though! I hope his last days are restful and pain free!

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  17. I'm so sorry. I'll be sending prayers for your dad, you and your family.

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  18. I'm so, so sorry.

    You've made difficult decisions but the right ones in keeping Dad in a familiar place, surrounded by the love of his family.

    I pray for his comfort and peace as well as for your Mom and you, PK.

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  19. This is such a tough time for you, prayers are with you all.

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  20. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so our consolation also abounds through Christ. Now if we are afflicted, it is for your consolation and salvation, which is effective for enduring the same sufferings which we also suffer. Or if we are comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation. And our hope for you is steadfast, because we know that as you are partakers of the sufferings, so also you will partake of the consolation. [2 Corinthians 1:3-7]

    I am praying that you will get a few glimpses of how the Lord is using this time in your life to draw others to Himself - you are a dear, loving testimony to His steadfastness. I will be praying for you and your family in the days and weeks to come!

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  21. I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is to watch a family member struggle with cancer, but I'm glad that you get to spend this time with him now. You and your family will be in my prayers. Please don't hesitate to ask if there's anything I can do for you.

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  22. I'm so sorry. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers. I wish you all peace during this storm.

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  23. I'm so sorry to hear this news. I'm sure both your mom and dad are thankful you can be with them during this time. You and yours will be in my prayers.

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  24. I'm so sorry to hear this. There really are no words for your grief. But find peace in the fact he knows the Lord and you will see him again one day where he will be perfectly healthy. No more pain. You have wonderful support from us bloggers so pass on that love to your mom for us as well. You'll be in my prayers during this tremendously difficult time.

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  25. Oh hun I'm so so sorry. I cannot even imagine what you're going through. I'm sure your family is extremely comforted that you are there and can remain by his side. I will be keeping all of you in my prayers. Please if you need anything let me know. Shoot me am email and I'll do whatever I can.... Imyewneek@yahoo.com

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  26. I know my words can't help or fix what you're going through. And I haven't been through anything similar so I can't even give you that. But I hope you're able to spend much time with your father and heal as it happens. Sending love to MA.

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  27. I'm really sorry to hear that! My thoughts are with you and your father.

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  28. I know there is nothing I can say to ease this pain but please know that I will be praying for strength for you and your family.

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  29. I am so so sorry!! You and your family are in my prayers. You're dad is blessed to have you there... and so is your mom. God Bless you during this time.

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  30. I'm sorry about your father, and I'll have you and your father in my prayers.

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  31. I don't suppose there are words to make you feel better. I'm so sorry. I hope the weeks you get with your parents are as pain free as possible, for all of you. I pray that when the time comes, your Dad passes peacefully. Have you read "Heaven Is For Real"? It really helped me wrap my mind around Heaven, and what it will be like to see our family and friends again.

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  32. Again, I'm so sorry. I hope that you find peace in the end and so does the whole family.

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