I’ve always enjoyed sleep. I actually didn’t have a bedtime growing up because if I was tired, I went to bed. Even now, as an adult, I prefer 8-10 hours of sleep a night. Naps are my best friend.
I bet you’re laughing now because you know sleep and babies are NOT friends. They are not things you associate with each other because frankly they DO NOT go together. It’s been about 9 weeks since I’ve had a full night of sleep.
In the hospital, munchkin never slept in the little plastic bassinet thingie they have in the room for the baby. She either slept in my arms or on her daddy’s chest. We might have created a monster cause it was hard to get her used to the co-sleeper when we got home. At one point in the second week I gave in and did what I said I would never do…I pulled her in the big bed. I curled myself around her and fell asleep. It was the best the sleep I ever got. While I was nervous at first to bed share, the need for sleep continued to win out. Munchkin joined us in bed more and more.
Now, at two months Munchkin is sleeping in her co-sleeper for the most part. She gets put down in it to start the night. She’ll sleep 4-5 hours before she wants to nurse. I pull her into the big bed and nurse laying down (learning how to do this is one of the best things I’ve done!) Some nights she lets me put her back in her co-sleeper. Other nights she stays in bed with us. I love waking up to her smiley face and her baby coos.
I feel like bed sharing in our dirty little secret. When you’re pregnant you’re told over and over again how bad/dangerous it is to sleep with your baby in your bed. Yet I have to wonder…how many of us do it to save our sanity? There is no way I would have made it through those first few weeks without bed sharing. In talking with friends, it’s amazing how many people have told me that they too, slept with their baby in their bed.
For us, it was what felt right and what worked for us. We did have some people who told us it was a bad idea…that we would never get munchkin out of our bed and that she needed to learn independence. I’m no worried about either one as she has plenty of time to learn to be independent. As for not getting her out of our bed, there have already been nights that she’s only in our bed to nurse. I’m not worried.
If you are sharing your bed with your baby, please so safely. There are guidelines to keep your little one safe. You should make sure to keep pillows and blankets away from your little one, and you shouldn’t drink or smoke. And did you know that it’s safer to bed share than sleep with your baby on the sofa?
Did you bed share?